Are People Ignorant or Just Ignoring the Issue?
So often, while I’m scrolling through tweets and doing my interactions on Twitter, I see stories of how people seem to be struggling with how others view mental health. Too often they are talking about how other people dismiss their struggles as trivial or “all in their head”. I can’t help but wonder, when reading these, whether it is deliberate. Are they ignoring the issue?
In the past year, someone I know has gone through a separation. This separation has been made difficult by the other party effectively burying their head in the sand. Despite my friend being out of the house for a year or so, the partner still insisted that my friend was going to come back, that they were all going to be happy families again. My friend has said unequivocally that that will never happen, yet still the ex-partner insists on referring to my friend as “love” and won’t accept that they are completely separated.
Is the ex-partner truly ignorant of the issue? Or simply ignoring it?
At Pushing Back the Shadows, we are no stranger to ignorance. We see it every day on our Twitter account, on our Facebook account and on other social media profiles. Plenty of people don’t seem to understand mental health. More the hows and whys than anything else, but there is that lack of understanding. When I see these, I try and offer explanations for some of the things going on. I try and shed light on those issues. After all, it’s what we do.
Personally, I find ignorance is excusable to a point. If you haven’t really come across anything that really requires you to learn about the subject, how can you be expected to know about it? With mental health, if you don’t really know of anyone who suffers (granted, statistically there will be someone but they might not be open about it) then why would you feel the need to educate yourself? To a point it is excusable, as everyone has something they need educating about.
But when does it become inexcusable?
Ignoring the Issue
As with my friend’s ex-partner, there comes a time when the ignorance is more than just ignorance. It’s deliberate. People who have the evidence put in front of them or have had the problems explained multiple times are ignoring the issue, plain and simple. Unfortunately, there aren’t two ways about it. They are burying their heads in the sand, unwilling to accept that their view or their belief is being challenged. Some perceive mental health to be a load of rubbish and, despite more and more people talking about their struggles, refuse to budge from that stance. Others realise there is a problem but won’t accept that the person suffering cannot always make a change the way they would want. They think of it as an issue of laziness, which isn’t always the case.
For people like this, it doesn’t seem to be a case of ignorance, as they have had plenty of opportunities to learn. It comes down to ignoring the issue, refusing to accept something different to what they believe. It’s sad that people like this exist, but that’s what makes us all unique and all different.
Ignorance vs Ignoring the Issue
So what do we do with these people? Those who are ignorant and those who bury their heads in the sand? Realistically? We should seek to educate those who are ignorant to the struggles of mental health but not to the point of exhausting ourselves. We should identify when they are refusing to accept the truth or reality and when they are burying their head in the sand and realise that we’ve tried our best, we can do no more. As long as we’ve tried, that is what counts.
What do you think?
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