Play it Safe or Take the Risk?
I have always been one of those people, the one who doesn’t take risks, goes for the safe option. I’ve stuck in the same job for 16 years because I know I can do it almost in my sleep. Depression has eroded my self esteem so much that more often than not fear paralyses me into inaction. But sometimes we have to take the risk. We can’t just sit and let life pass us by. One thing that struck me when Alex wrote Fleeting Fragility was how often people let themselves be bound by fear and before we know it life has passed us by.
Six months ago I took a huge risk. I packed up mine and my children’s belongings and left my marriage of eleven years. I won’t bore you with the reasons why; just that things had gotten to a point that things had to change. So I took a risk, I left what would have been financially easier, so that my children would be able to grow safely and happily. I had taken a hit to my mental health during the course of the relationship, and while leaving didn’t stop the spiral immediately, I didn’t completely drop into the abyss.
I took the risk. And it paid off.
Not every risk we take pays off. Even the individuals who try to make romantic connections via Twitter to people they hardly know are taking a risk. Okay, they probably get rebuffed a lot. But they’re trying to find some happiness in a world that is increasingly negative.
If we don’t take the chance nothing will ever happen. When Alex started this website, it was a risk. It still is sometimes. Making this work as a business is hard work and sometimes can feel like an uphill struggle. Combining this with the fact that we both have issues with depression and anxiety could make this seem an unlikely enterprise. There’s risks to our mental health simply from how some can respond to what we write about.
But we take the risk. Everyday. Because it’s our purpose.
I guess this is the crux of my point with this weeks post. Reach out. Take the risk. If you know someone is suffering with mental health issues, reach out to them. Yes, there’s the chance you may not be able to help them, but it’s more likely that just knowing that someone is there will help. Likewise as a sufferer if you know that something or someone is a big contributing factor to your depression then it’s maybe time to take a risk and make a change. Speaking as someone who hates taking chances and yet has recently decided to take the risk and let myself be vulnerable again, your happiness could be on the line. After all if you don’t then you could leave it one day too late.
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