The Perspective of a Parent
I was reading through a couple of other blogs this morning and I wanted to share one with you. It offers a different take on self-harming, one that I thought would be a beneficial read for you. The main question that the author, a parent of someone with depression, asks is: is self-harm a legitimate coping skill or a silent scream for help?
The article in question is by Theresa Larsen and it offers the perspective of a parent. She has written a couple of articles surrounding her son’s depression and how he, like me, turned to self-harm in order to cope. You can find the link below.
A Legitimate Coping Mechanism?
Those of you following my blog will know I believe this to be a coping mechanism. In Pills and Blades and my journey I describe it as such. I will be going into that in our upcoming series About Self-Harm, launching on 5/7/2017, but in a nutshell it’s something that’s been proven to release some of the tensions, stresses and feelings that I experience through my depression.
Theresa Larsen has a different take on it. She describes self-harm as being a maladaptive coping mechanism, or one that doesn’t help in the long-term. I do agree with this. Self-harm, for me, has always been a quick fix, short-term way of managing my symptoms. It’s definitely not something I’d encourage for the longer term.
In an article I wrote titled “Why I’m Grateful for My Son’s Self-Injury,” I describe my son’s depression and the use of cutting to release some of his inner pain. This self-injury turned into an addictive and compulsive act that culminated in several suicide attempts. Cutting became his demon; one that needed to be fed, demanded attention, and was in control. No longer was my son the master of himself, the demon was. He described it as a monster, an obsession, “I want to cradle my obsession and love my obsession. . .the monster that has festered for, it seems like an eternity, inside of me. . .”
Check out Theresa’s article here and unpack what she thinks about self-harm and depression. It’s certainly well worth the read! As someone who understands self-harm and can explain both the act and the reasons behind it, I found it interesting to read the perspective of a parent. Take a look. You might find it interesting. I definitely did.
More reviews to come!
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