Episode 25 – Suicide Watch

When someone is struggling with depression or bipolar or other mental illnesses, the risk of suicidal thoughts or tendencies is a very real one.  But what do we do with that?  How do we, as friends and family members, support someone who is struggling with those suicidal notions?  How do we deal with it?  In Suicide Watch, we crack that topic wide open and give you some of the tools you’ll need to deal with it.

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Episode 24 – Fraud

Despite others telling us that we’re good at what we’re doing, we can feel as though we’re frauds.  With anxiety particularly, we can feel as though we’re not really as good as people think and any day we will get found out.  It’s a horrible sensation to live with, so what can we do about it?

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Episode 17 – The Power of Perspective

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Episode 23 – Owning the Struggle

During sessions with doctors and therapists and in our interactions with friends and family, it can often feel as though everyone is trying to tell us what we’re feeling, what we should be doing and how things should be.  I don’t believe this should be the case, as we are the experts on ourselves.  Perhaps we need to own our struggle and help others remember that our opinions and our experiences are just as important.

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Identifying Identity

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Episode 22 – Taking Back Control

Episode 22 – Taking Back Control

With depression, anxiety, bipolar and other mental health struggles, we can often lose control of events in our lives.  Too often, we find our lives are dictated by our anxiety or by our depression and there isn’t much room for what we want.  In this episode, Alex takes you through his guide to taking back that control and starting to make the change you want to make in your life.

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Episode 17 – The Power of Perspective
Episode 19 – Inaction’s Iniquity
First Day Fears

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Episode 21 – A Barrier to Change

Episode 21 – A Barrier to Change

After an almost heated debate on Twitter about an image posted alongside an informative page link, Alex talks about how sometimes we, as mental health sufferers, can be one of the biggest barriers to getting the change that we want.  Do we want the change?  Or are we comfortable just listening to what people say and sitting back, doing nothing?  Why not join me and hear my point and see what you think?

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Understanding Self-Harm

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Episode 20 – Finding Light in the Dark

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Become a PatronEpisode 20 – Finding Light in the Dark

When suffering with depression, anxiety, bipolar or any other mental health struggle, it can frequently feel as though we’re struggling to get through the darkness while looking for the light.  Sometimes it feels like the light is some mythical entity that exists only in our imaginations.  But when we press forwards, there is the chance that we can find that light.  Here, I talk about some of my tips for finding the light in the darkness.  Why not join me?

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Through the Dark

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Episode 19 – Inaction’s Iniquity

Sometimes we might think we can get away with sitting back and doing nothing.  If we don’t get involved, it’s not our problem, right?  Unfortunately that makes us just as culpable as if we deliberately did the wrong thing.  Join me for this episode where I follow on from how we are meant to take ownership of our problems.

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Episode 18 – If Not Us, Then Who?

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Episode 18 – If Not Us, Then Who?

In today’s society, we’re so good at talking about wanting changes. Regardless of what they’re for, we will talk about them a lot and get offended if it doesn’t happen. But when it comes down to standing up for what we believe in and making that change? We’re not so good at that, are we? Join me as I talk about this further.

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Waiting on a Miracle
The Onus – We’re Here For You

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Episode 17 – The Power of Perspective

When we’re in the middle of our situation, going through the darkness and we’re struggling to find the light at the end of the tunnel, sometimes a shift in perspective or even a completely different perspective can be useful. We might not see the progress we’re making but other people around us might. Join Alex as he looks at the power that perspective can have on our walk with mental health.

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Through the Dark

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Alex and The Joker

*This post comes with a potential trigger warning as there are some elements that readers might find triggering.*

This post is the one mentioned in Episode 16 of the PBTS Podcast, taken from my old blog when I originally started writing.  To listen to the podcast, find it here.

The Joker

I tell awful jokes. Really awful ones. I’ve mentioned my humour before because it’s a coping mechanism, a way of getting through the day. It was one of two things that got me through work yesterday and quite often it’s a big part of my mask. I hide behind the jokes, the puns, the humour. That way they can’t see me breaking inside. If you look happy enough and smile enough, people just assume everything is ok, even when it isn’t. They won’t push too hard to find out what’s wrong because, to look at you, they’d say nothing is wrong. So it works well. In fact…sometimes it works too well.
Often I find that the jokes are just getting me through by putting a smile (or a grimace) on other people’s faces…it doesn’t really help me because I don’t find them funny. If anything, I’d say I’m not a funny guy because I don’t feel the funny side of things much anymore. Another thing to add to the list of how broken I am. On the surface I seem to be a joker, playing for the laughs and trying to get people to smile but deep down I’m anything but. Deep down I’m chaos.

Oddly enough, I’ve been thinking a little bit about the Joker from the Batman films over the past couple of days. I watched a clip on YouTube of some of the iconic film moments that are actually accidental, where something didn’t go according to plan and the reaction was so good and so genuine that the filmmaker kept it in the final cut. I find that the Joker has some of the best lines, lines that I can relate to…which is both good and scary at the same time. One such example would be when he asks “Wanna know how I got these scars”…although I think you all know the answer to that.

“Wanna Know How I Got These Scars…?”

I’ll be honest with you: I feel absolutely awful today. Mind is playing up in overdrive, head is almost hurting and my chest is tight and nothing seems to be going right. Not to mention the pain that I’m in both physically and mentally, which is slowly doing my head in. I’m in such a way today that I’ve locked myself in the flat, I haven’t got the motivation or desire to go anywhere. I don’t want to see anyone. I don’t want to do anything.
Well, earlier I was chatting with my friend PJ and I got quite irritated. Not with her but with other people. While we were messaging, I suddenly said a couple of people had made me think of the Joker. In the scene in the hospital when Harvey Dent (Two-Face) is recovering from the explosion that turned him into the villain, the Joker says this:

“You know…you know what I’ve noticed? Nobody panics when things go ‘according to plan’. Even if the plan is horrifying! If, tomorrow, I tell the press that, like, a gang banger will get shot or a truckload of soldiers will be blown up, nobody panics because it’s all ‘part of the plan’. But when I say that one little old mayor will die…well then everyone loses their minds!”

I can relate. Supposedly I was meant to somewhere and I really didn’t feel up to it. Effectively, yet again, I’ve let people down because I wasn’t where I was supposed to be. What irritated me, though, is that none of those people noticed that I was struggling, they didn’t message me asking where I was until today. Last week I was at my parents’ and wasn’t meant to be there so when they didn’t see me it was “all part of the plan”. Suddenly, when I’m not there because I feel awful, they all want to know how I am and where I am. Seriously? It’s like a bad joke. In the majority of times, the minute people want something from you, that’s when they start acting all concerned and messaging and finding out how you are. Otherwise they forget about you and don’t bother unless you message them and even then sometimes they don’t bother. I’ve been told that someone is too busy to reply to a message once before, where that person told me their life was too busy to be messaging me. Considering at that point I had no one else to turn to, that cut.

The Joker and I

So…wanna know how I got these scars? Want to know why I’m drawing further and further in on myself? Want to know why this blog is full of depressing stories of how crushed, broken and alone I feel? Look no further. For every word you’ve read, every conversation you’ve skipped over with me because you’ve been “too busy” is stored up ready to explode and maybe one day it’ll be too late, maybe one day I won’t be around. Perhaps I turned to you because I had no one else…did that get considered? Or perhaps I didn’t message because I couldn’t bring myself to message. But I don’t think that would have even crossed your minds…

Already today my phone has been shoved to one side because I’m getting messages from people who would otherwise be ignoring me, too wrapped up in their busy lives to bother finding out who I am and it’s pushing me further and further down. It takes five minutes at most to send a message to find out how someone is, why is it only when they’re not there that you notice?

Yes, this is a bit of a rant but I feel that bad today that I’m past caring. Why should I feel bad for feeling this way when no one else takes any regard of me? Granted, there are some exceptions (you know who you are) but in the majority of people, why is it so hard? I sit here with around 300 scars that I’ve collected over the past few weeks but I’m fairly certain that not many of you would notice or ask how it’s going, even if you’ve read it on here. Why is it so hard to talk to me? I’m broken, I’m bloody, I’m a mess and I’ve almost given up trying…what does it say about you if you’re too busy to be the helping hand that I’m desperately reaching out for?
Or are you just too busy?

“When I’m not supposed to be there, no one thinks of me when I don’t turn up because it’s all ‘part of the plan’. But when I’m supposed to be there and I’m not? Then everyone suddenly loses their minds.”

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