When You Make A Mistake

You Made a Mistake

It happens, doesn’t it? Everyone makes mistakes. Don’t worry, I’m not going to ask you what your biggest mistake is or anything like that, though feel free to comment or message with it if you want to.  Still, everyone makes mistakes, some big and some small.  But what do we do with those mistakes?  How do we move on from them?  Do they weigh us down?  Sadly, yes…so let’s take a look at that.

Don't cling to that mistake just because you spent a lot of time making it.Have you made a mistake in the past week?  Again: you do not need to tell me.  The important question to ask, however, is: have you forgiven yourself for it?  Have you forgiven yourself or are you clinging to that mistake?

To give you a little scope, the general mistakes I’m referring to are the ones you would do in your darkest moments.  In my case, I’d class self-harm as a mistake.  Even though I can justify it and explain the reasoning behind it, it was still a mistake because it’s something I should never have done, something I’m not proud of.

But what do I do with it?

Forgiveness and You

Forgiving yourself is one of the hardest things to do, isn’t it? We aren’t good at forgiving ourselves when we make mistakes.  If anything, our depression magnifies what we’ve done and turns the molehill into a mountain, making it harder for us to practice forgiveness.  We cling to our mistakes because we think we should never have made them.  Forgiving ourselves is all but impossible.

How do you forgive yourself? Honestly, it takes a lot of practice.  Combine that with some willpower and you can start the process.  Every time your own Dark Passenger drags up your mistakes, put it aside and say to yourself “it’s in the past, what’s done is done”.

OK, definitely easier said than done but it’s a starting point.

Forgiving yourself is the first step of letting go of the mistake you made.  While it isn’t easy, it’s the only way to begin that process.  If you’re particularly hurt after the mistake then it is one of the few ways to kick-start the healing process as well.  Forgiveness can lead to a recovery from it.

But it all starts with you.

You’re only humanThe only time you should ever look back is to see how far you've come.

There’s a song by Christina Perri called Human that talks about how we’re only human and we bleed and we fall down. As I write this, I think there’s a ring of truth to it where mistakes our concerned.

You’re only human.

Making mistakes is a natural part of life and we are all going to make at least one in our lifetime.  No matter how much people might like to think it, no one is perfect, so we are going to get things wrong from time to time.  Do you know what, though?  That’s OK.

That’s right: it’s OK.

Regardless of whether you got it wrong or not, you still tried.  As I said while talking about relapsing, trying is the important part.  Yes, you made a mistake but that is always going to be a possibility when you’re trying to get better.

If today you’re dwelling on a mistake that you’ve made then please try and forgive yourself.  You are more than the sum of your past mistakes, you are just a human trying to find their way in the world.  Just like the rest of us.  Everyone has a mistake that they wish they hadn’t made.  So it’s OK.

If you want to talk about it, send us a message and we will do what we can.  Please do try to forgive yourself.  You can do it.  Mistakes are OK.  It’s what you do with them that’s important.

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Author: Alex Davies

Alex Davies is the creator and writer for Pushing Back the Shadows. Find out more about his journey here and connect with him on Facebook, Google+ and Twitter.

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